Why are you plotting a full-blown silent treatment while your coworker is already drafting a group hug email? This conflict style quiz shows what you tend to do when things heat up—and why it matters more than you think.
This self-assessment is based on the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Model. It shows where you land on the spectrum of assertiveness (your concern for your own needs) vs cooperativeness (your concern for others). Your score tells you how you tend to react in conflict—and why that might be working for or against you at work, in relationships, or even at the dinner table.
The sooner you know how you handle friction, the sooner you can lead better, listen better, and stop repeating the same old tension-filled dance.
Whether you avoid conflict or confront it, this quiz doesn’t judge—it just reflects.
Read More: Conflict-Proof Mindset: How To Stay Calm In Heated Conversations
Think you are calm under pressure? This conflict style quiz might disagree—let’s find out.
| Question | Agree | Neutral | Disagree |
|---|---|---|---|
| I aim to find solutions where both sides fully get what they want. | |||
| I speak up quickly when I feel my opinion is right, even if others may disagree. | |||
| I try to sidestep conflict until things calm down or resolve on their own. | |||
| I work with others to find creative solutions that meet all needs. | |||
| I prefer solutions where everyone gives up something to make it work. | |||
| I change the topic or stay silent when conflict arises. | |||
| I assert my needs firmly, even if it means challenging others. | |||
| I often give in to preserve harmony, even if I feel differently. | |||
| I value hearing all sides and finding the best combined path forward. | |||
| I usually wait to see if a conflict resolves without my involvement. | |||
| I find it hard to back down once I know I’m right. | |||
| I tend to avoid conflict by doing what others suggest. | |||
| I’m okay with a solution that splits the difference so we can move on. | |||
| I try to make others comfortable, even if it means letting go of my preference. | |||
| I aim for fairness, even if no one gets exactly what they want. |
Note: This assessment is for personal growth and learning and should be interpreted as such. Do not copy or commercially reuse this assessment.
Take a Moment to Reflect 🎯
- What surprised you about your quiz results?
- Does this conflict style feel true to how you usually respond?
- What’s one small change you’ll make moving forward?
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